Body Shaming or just Real Talk (NSFW)

I know this blog will not make me popular in the least. So let me put my disclaimer out there…..

I am not fat shaming. I ain’t skinny. I’m just opening the discussion up on what loving yourself really means.  Why does you loving your own body mean you putting EVERYTHING out there for everyone to see? And also I want to spread the word that sometimes when people are telling you to put that shit up….it’s not shaming of any kind. It’s Real Talk.

Okay so here goes…There have been a lot of discussions about fat shaming and body shaming women of various body types. Skinny, fat, muscular etc. There is a movement to combat this where women are saying “My body is beautiful” (which I love) and then there are some who step it up a notch by showing all their everything.

Look… I think we’re taking this thing too far. I am not a skinny person but also I’m not obese either, however, I do think my body is beautiful. STILL you will NEVER catch me in a bikini if I’m in my time of chub. I have a rule of NVFR. No Visible Fat Rolls.

I saw this one article praising a woman for recreating the famous Madonna street hitchhiking picture. When I saw the picture I thought but why though? I mean good for her but why? Here is the picture.

bodypositivity3This picture did not inspire me to do anything but click the next article.

I feel like some things should not be on display. Maybe my opinion is not a popular one but I just don’t understand the need to do that. Now look don’t get me wrong, to each his own. I’m all about this woman being free to love her self and her body…but why do this? And to be honest, I feel the same way about Kim Kardashian and her constant nudity. She has a body a lot of people want to see. (Not me so much because I hate her fake ass and I think it looks stupid).  I just feel like why are you showing your cooch to everyone? But you know what, I really don’t think she has that much more to offer the world. If you don’t know what I’m talking about then here you go.

kim-kardashian-paper-magazineAnd also….

kim-kardashian-paper-magazine-frontForm your own opinions.

So anyway, Here’s another reason why I feel this movement is going too far….. I was reading and I saw this article about a woman who wore a bikini with a colostomy bag. She was sunbathing in private and then her husband took the picture and she posted it. The picture went viral with lots of people applauding her for her courageousness.  Here is the pic.

poo bagThere is nothing much going on in these pictures. This lady is beautiful. There is just one problem. That there on her stomach? You see that? That is a poo bag. A bag she is fitted with to hold her natural waste. Her shit. That is a shit bag. Can NOTHING be private? I don’t need to see your shit bag. What’s next? Pretty pictures taken while girls take a shit? (That I’m not supposed to be disgusted at?) Because you know….I love my body? NO! This lady has a great inspiring story and if you want to read it here it is….(But this pic should have stayed in her private collection)

http://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/386768/Crohn-s-disease-colostomy-bags-model

Then there are the fit moms showing pictures of themselves with their kids with captions like, “No excuses.”  Basically saying what’s wrong with your fat ass? Here’s my problem with that. Losing weight is a hard thing. Losing weight after baby is astronomically hard! And it comes accompanied with shame, self doubt, crazy hormones, no sleep, and…..a baby. Instead of saying what the fuck is wrong with you, why not say,  here is what I did and you can do it too. BTW most of these women weren’t fat before they had the baby and kept their workout and eating plans throughout their pregnancy. So…..STFU and GTFOH.

No excuse momAnd then this woman….

mom 6 pack\_  \_ \_ \_ Have several seats.

All I’m saying here is,  why do we need to show everything all the time? And when we show something that people don’t receive well then all of a sudden its body shaming. Maybe it’s not body shaming but some real talk. Why can’t your fat rolls be something you’re proud of but in private? Why can’t you be a fit woman without making people who are not fit feel like pieces of poo? And for God’s sake, why can’t your shit bag be something that I never know you have?

Sometimes things are what they are. If you’re fat, you’re fat.  If you’re skinny, you’re skinny. If you’re fit, You’re fit.  And hey that’s okay if you’re okay with it. But do I really need to see every nook and cranny? It doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful.

You can be beautiful no matter what your body type.  And you can put it on display without it being like, “Here is my fat! Look at iiiiiit! Look at it and you better not look away!”

Here’s an example.  This plus sized model named Tess Munster is one of the people that I think gets it right. She celebrates her body even in the naked shots she does. This bitch is just beautiful. She knows how to get the most out of her body and her beauty. She works the shit out angles and hides and shows the curves that makes her undisputed-ly…sexy.

Example A:

Tess 1

Werk Bish!

Example B:

Tess 2

Slay!

Example C:

Tess 3

*Dead*

She is now a model for Vogue Italia! Here is the article.

http://www.lifeandstylemag.com/posts/size-22-mom-tess-holliday-lands-modeling-contract-and-appears-in-vogue-50202

In conclusion, I am not a fan of putting it all out there. I AM a fan of loving yourself. No fat rolls. No fit mom shaming. No Kim Kardashian. No shit bags.

Just my opinion.

~VC

 

 

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